Dating websites

I have to say that all those online dating websites are crap in most of the countries: in Spain, the girls signing up there are very low quality (mostly weirdos, crazy and fat ones). And when i was in Japan, i messaged around 20 women one night from my hotel room and no one answered (only the ones from China or Taiwan living there, 99.9% prostitutes). Eventually, i lived there for 1 month before and didn't meet anyone online (long time ago skype was working ok with japanese girls, but only the english speaking ones, since i don't speak japanese... and that would be the main reason for my failure). Then i am using some of those websites here in Taiwan and it seems to work great. There are pretty decent girls online. To be honest, here in Taipei is much better to use online dating sites than going to clubs.

Why that? I suppose that a Norwegian or any kind of tall blonde guy with blue eyes, or Cuban, argentino or even italian would give me a different impression about online dating in Spain. And nowadays, in the modern Japan, a black guy from Nigeria can do much better with the locals than most of the white guys out there (we seem to be an outdated trend there... démodé... haha.. fuckers..). Might be a little bit better for them in the online dating game. But not at all, cause there is a cultural thing involved as well.

In Spain, most of the young people (and middle aged singles) go out. The bar culture is strong. But in Taiwan, after going to the same club or bar for 3 months, you will realize that there is always the same people in there. The community of taiwanese girls looking forward to get laid with foreigners in the club is not as big as many people might think. It's a ghetto: the english teacher's community and their pool parties, foreigner parties, always attracting those girls we all know for years (and probably most of us fucked at least once).

In Taiwan, girls are definitely not attracted to black guys (only the fat ones, cause they are up to anything) and many of those signing up in dating websites are open for dating both taiwanese and white foreign guys (as long as the language barrier is not a problem for basic communication). Foreigners will always get more attention than the locals from many of the girls. At least more curiosity, more questions about job, why here, etc. Initially, more interest. Also, the shy nature of asian people make them see this kind of virtual communication as more natural, less aggressive (and they love photos!). In Europe, this is just weird, with a "scene" mainly dominated by teenagers and attention whores.

The most part of those online girls remain in the virtual world forever: chatting, wasting time, fulfilling egos, etc. But i met many nice girls. A few bizarre ones too, but common sense and experience should guide you better than anything else.

Some friends living in Thailand and similar places (almost 3rd world countries) told me that dating in Taiwan is not easy. Well, i woulnd`t count desperate girls and prostitutes as a date. Anyway, very few girls are looking for just "having a good time" (in the simple way guys see it). But yes, somebody also said "girls in Mainland China are more motivated". Totally understandable...

From my part, i just bought my first smartphone 2 months ago... you can stay connected to those sites through its applications 24/7. It definitely makes a big difference: now checking videos in Youtube, bidding in Ebay or buying things online, reading e-books and selecting or making a friend of the opposite sex for a coffee is all the same.

The club culture is definitely crap. I avoid all those superclubs full of foreigners or the specific foreign bars (the worst, i work at one of them). The Clubs for locals are a little more genuine (of course, knowing their language is a minimum requirement there). Allucandrink places with horrible alcohol & music.  But possible to get laid... at your own risk. I would recommend to go to those places with a good bunch of friends. Jealous taiwanese guys never fight one on one. They just want to win. If they see there is a minumum possibility to lose, they won't fight (they would even consider a 5 vs 10 confrontation, they feel safer when they have 5 mates for every 'bad foreigner'). Nuff said.

Maybe i am getting old, and because i work in the nightlife for around 13 years, i see it differently. I don't want to get out of the bar where i work to go to another bar during my free time. That would be another ghetto... of my mind.

Let's not forget about reality: all those coworkers, classmates, students, teachers, bosses... police?? Well, the point is that i really like my coworker for a long time. I asked her out just once and she couldn't make it. Then i found out that she had a boyfriend at that time. Not sure if she has one right now (for sure she broke up with that previous one), but i don't want to let everything become an awkward situation at work (i have to work beside her 3 days a week, for 3h everyday). I wouldn't mind to ask her out again (of course, i think that i have a chance), but maybe i like her too much? I might be 101% sure, and a man is not even close to a 50% sure for these matters (women's nature confuse us, impossible to know what they exactly think). But it would be ok if we weren't coworkers. Some friends (guys and girls) told me that i might try harder. They say, for what i told them, that she just wants to see if i am really serious about her. Well, that's the point: dating websites provide me a good number of decent casual dates. Maybe it's my choice. I want to remain single. But in the other hand, i always say that i am open to a serious relationship. I am not sure if i just want to find excuses. Probably i got enough in the past. Or like one of my roommates said: "after you bang more than 20 or 30 women, you can`t be satisfied anymore, man. It's too late"